DEAR MISS MANNERS: My daughters play competitive soccer. It is understood, and often in the rule book, that the parents of one team sit on one side of the field and the parents of the other team sit on the other side.
Several times over the years, parents from the other team have sat on our side. Usually it’s not a big deal, but sometimes it makes things awkward.
During our last game, half of the parents from the other team elected to sit behind our team so they could enjoy the sunshine, as their side was in shade. They then proceeded to make snarky comments to and about our players, and us, during the game. After the game, one of the parents from the other team tracked a parent down to begin an altercation for a perceived slight.
In my opinion, these are the reasons we have the rules that parents sit on different sides in the first place!
Is there something I can say to encourage them to sit on their own side during the game, or do good manners dictate that I just sit silently by?
GENTLE READER: Oh, good manners have left the playing field entirely. Because those would dictate that parents can be trusted to sit together at a sporting event of school-aged children without causing a scene.
In an attempt to reinstate decorum, Miss Manners suggests you turn your attention toward shaming the other parents into pleasantness, rather than enforcing rules that encourage bad behavior. When you hear comments about yourself or the players, innocently respond, “Sorry, were you talking about us? Because we think both teams are doing really well, don’t you?”
If nothing else, this will infuriate them. Since that seems to be the goal of all this anyway.
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