DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced man in my 60s. Twelve years ago, a neighbor woman who I’m attracted to popped into my house to have a smoke break out on my back deck. When she arrived, I was in the shower. She came in like she always did (she had permission) and walked over to the fireplace. As she turned, she took two steps and froze because at that same moment, I came out of the shower 5 feet from my bedroom. I was naked. I froze as she looked at me. Abby, she looked me straight in the eye, and then her gaze dropped to my groin. It stayed there for about two seconds, then she gave me a smile, turned away and went out on my deck like nothing had happened.
I can’t forget that day. My heart was pounding the way it does the first time you meet someone. She was, and still is, married. That’s why I didn’t approach her, even though I kind of wish I had. I haven’t been with a woman since my divorce 16 years ago, which may be why I still think about it. We are still friends and nothing like that has happened since — even though I wish it would happen tomorrow. This is the first time I have confided this to anyone. We never talk about that heart-pounding day. What do you suggest? — HIDDEN FEELINGS IN PENNSYLVANIA
DEAR HIDDEN: I suggest you get back in that shower and turn the cold water on full blast. My next suggestion is to start looking at dating sites because I think you are more than ready.
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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